I’m still trying to decide how I feel about transgender identities. On the one hand they can help other people get an idea of what you might be like. It gives them a starting point. On the other hand it’s all too easy to pigeonhole yourself and others based on identities. “Oh, you’re this so you must be exactly like that.”

Part of the problem is there aren’t any hard and fast rules about what a particular identity is. One person might identify as A and another identifies as B, but when you talk to them you find out they’re very similar. So which one of them is a little confused about their identity? They’re not. You are. Insert The Twilight Zone music here.

Honestly, the reason I’m having trouble with this is I’m trying to pigeonhole myself. Like I said in What is an androgyne anyway? I consider myself a man. My gender is simultaneously pangender and me. How does that work? But there I go insisting on knowing instead of just being. It’s been one of those decades?

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